THE BUS TO SHANGRI-LA
February 2006

For the last couple of months, I’ve
been tutoring a little Japanese girl named Marin. She lives with her
parents in the Shangri-La Residences, adjacent to the ritzy Shangri-La
Hotel. Marin’s father is working in China for a few years, so Marin
attends 4th grade at the Canadian international school here in Dalian.
With the current schedule, I go to her home four nights a week.
This means that four times a week, I
go from my American apartment to their Japanese flat, a journey that
entails traveling through China for forty minutes on a bus. This journey
is a literal immersion into China, as entering the bus results in
continual close contact with real Chinese people for the next 40 minutes.
Personal space and politeness are left back in my apartment, as I’m
crowded into a rickety box on wheels piloted by a maniac. To survive the
bus, I’ve been forced to adapt my behavior and I now push my way on and
off with the best of them.
Although it’s perfectly acceptable to
squeeze in front of people to get on the bus, with a little pushing thrown
in for good measure, once on the bus it’s a different story. There is a
certain etiquette that revolves around the coveted seats on the bus. If a
seat opens up directly in front of you and another person, you should
gesture to the other person to take it, and they will likewise gesture for
you to take it. This should go on for several rounds, until one person
gives in. Young children, pregnant women, and old people should always be
given a seat, even if you were already occupying it when they got on. The
extent to which you follow these rules reflects deeply upon your
character.
I should confess though, sometimes
after a particularly vigorous fight to get on the bus, I’ll be rather
annoyed with all these pushing and shoving people who seem incapable of
making a queue. Thus angered, when a seat in front of me opens up, I
avert my eyes and squeeze in. Once in a seat, I will sometimes stare out
the window for the whole forty minutes, because if I don’t see the people
who deserve the seat more than me, then I won’t feel guilty for sitting in
it. I am not alone in this selfishness, and most other people give in to
their base desire for a seat rather than looking out for the needier
riders. But most of the time, I accept the pushing and shoving without
feeling too embittered towards my host country inhabitants. If a seat
opens up, I’ll usually glance around for a more deserving individual to
occupy it, and give them the seat with a grand chivalric gesture.
So while riding the bus with so many
people can be frustrating, it can also be an opportunity to exercise
random acts of kindness to strangers. On the ride home one night, a
person vacated the seat right in front of me. I didn’t see any elderly
people around, so I slipped into it. From the lower vantage point, I
noticed a little girl bundled up in a fluffy pink coat. My heart was
softened by her resemblance to a marshmallow, so I stood back up and
gestured for the mother to let her daughter sit there. She gratefully
accepted, and pulled her child over to the seat. At that moment, the bus
lurched forward and the small girl completely missed the seat. She wasn’t
hurt at all, due to all her cushioning, and I laughed as I reached an arm
out to pick up the bewildered little marshmallow. Her mom also reached
out an arm, met my eye with a smile, and together we hoisted the pink
marshmallow onto the seat.
Unfortunately, most trips lack such
heartwarming encounters. Usually, it’s just a dull grind up Huanghe Lu
while I try to transcend my surroundings by focusing on the NPR podcasts
from my iPod. The first time I traveled to Marin’s, the bus windows were
completely iced over and I couldn’t see anything. The busses aren’t
heated, so in winter it’s a shivery trip. I’m actually happy when the bus
is so crowded that I am nestled snuggly in amongst my fellow passengers.
The few times when the bus isn’t packed, it is like riding across town in
a freezer.
The 31 flows up one of Dalian’s main
arteries to the heart of the city. When the windows aren’t iced over, I
mark my progress with the now-familiar landmarks. First, there’s the
“Japan-China creation dish” restaurant with two giant fish statues
outside. Soon, we pass Zhongshan (“middle mountain”) Park, where the
Spring Festival lights still adorn the bushes. A minute later we pass the
“Coffee of Original Bean Lmpirted Westorn Beafsteak” restaurant that is
adjacent to “Ming Tien Coffef Language.” These classic signs are followed
by others: “Caesar Gent Lemens Fashion Club”, “International Celebrities
Beauty Salon”, and the “Professional Rejuvenation Center”.
The 31 bus heaves its way through
sections of town that are being torn down and sections that are being
built up. We pass the migrant worker barracks near the construction
sites, and the old houses still barely standing on the borders of the
destruction zones. Every bus stop is punctuated with glowing
advertisements. The current set of illuminated signs promote cell phones
and canned peaches. In the peach ad, the model is wearing bright pink
lipstick reminiscent of the 80’s and is biting into a dripping canned
peach, trying to look sensuous. It’s disgusting.
The Holiland Bakery shop and
“California Beef Noodle King U.S.A.” foreshadow our arrival at the Victory
Square mayhem. We pass in front of the train station and inch our way
through the traffic jam that is always waiting there. It’s only two more
stops to Marin’s now. The bus bounces past the “Blndman Massage” and soon
enters the bar district. Most of the drinking establishments bear girls’
names like “Amy Bar” and “Alice Bar” although the “Tin Whistle Pub” does
add a nice Irish touch. I alight at Zhigong street and walk up to the
Shangri-La.
Tutoring Marin is an easy and
enjoyable job—the mother plans out what I should teach that evening and
Marin is an apt pupil. Her English is quite good and she is bright and
inquisitive. At nine years old, she’s in an interesting stage where she’s
half slumbering in the innocence of childhood and half awaking to the
realities of the world. In the same day, she can jump out from behind the
door when I arrive to scare me, and then ask a billion “why” questions
regarding pollution. She’s quite opinionated about the unfairness and
cruelty of war, but she can spend just as long telling me about sliding
around on some ice at the playground.
But the best part is reading books
with her. After plodding our way through history texts, spelling words,
or grammar exercises, our reward is a few chapters from a book. At the
beginning, we read photocopied chapters of Harry Potter and the Chamber
of Secrets that were assigned by her school. During the winter
holiday, we read other books like Roald Dahl’s Matilda and Judy
Bloom’s Freckle Juice. She was always full of questions, the main
one being, “Why?” The funny thing is that for an hour and a half of
sitting with Marin, helping her do homework and read, I get paid Y150
($18). It’s at least twice what I make at my normal miserable job, which
shows how lucrative the tutoring business is.
Earlier this week, I had spent the
whole day interviewing potential Chinese teachers at work and I was
exhausted from the mind-numbing experience. I’d worked later than normal,
so I called Marin to tell her I wouldn’t be there until 6:45. “That’s
OK,” she said. Then, changing to more important matters, “It’s Harry
Potter today! Three chapters!” A few minutes later, I boarded the 31 and
began rumbling across town to Marin’s. The bus wasn’t too crowded so I
actually got a seat. I sat back, turned up my mp3 player, and let NPR
podcasts of intelligent discourse flow smoothly into my brain. I gazed
out the window as the bus carried me towards Harry Potter and Marin at the
Shangri-La.
